This Is Deep Work
You are about to do something most men never do. This process requires 2 to 3 hours of uninterrupted time. You will experience emotional release. You might cry. You might shake. That is not weakness. That is healing.
Do not do this half assed. Do not tick boxes. If you are not ready to go deep, come back when you are.
Pick the one with the MOST emotional charge for you.
Find minimum 20 examples of where YOU have displayed this same trait. Get at least one from each of the seven areas of life.
Can you see that you display this trait to the same degree as this person, in different forms?
Write in detail what this person went through that caused them to display this trait.
Can you see and understand why this person displayed the trait?
List minimum 10 negative emotions they experienced. Feel each one at 10 out of 10 intensity.
Have you actually felt each emotion at 10 out of 10? Close your eyes. This is emotional work, not intellectual.
What did you need to summon to overcome them? Minimum 5 benefits, aim for 10 or more.
These are YOUR greatest treasures. Would you give these up? No.
List minimum 5 positive emotions you would feel if someone gave you all the gifts from Step 4.
NO. They did not have them. So they made sure YOU would develop them.
You are the greatest gift. You have these qualities because they did not. They sacrificed so you could develop them.
You Did The Work
You have moved from shutdown about this person to integrated understanding. This person is no longer your enemy. They are your greatest teacher.
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